First kisses. Before I had my first kiss, everyone told me that it was no big deal. But, I was thinking Uh, yes it is! I want to know what it feels like. I don't want to be the only one not to know what it feels like! How do I even kiss well? What if it goes wrong? But, oooh, what if it goes right?!
Well, girls and guys, I'm here to answer all those questions for you and give you a casual but helpful guide on how to have a great first kiss.
I'll first give you some tips on how to have a nice first kiss, followed by some answering of common questions and at the end I'll tell you the story of my first kiss (which wasn't like the movies, so it'll calm your nerves!). Some issues I'll end up addressing multiple times.. And, Guys, I wrote this mainly for girls, but I'll include notes for you also:)
BASIC TIPS FOR YOUR FIRST KISS
1. The most obvious tip is to make sure your lips are nice and soft. If you have super chapped lips, opt for one of the lip balm pots by brands like Carmex or Blistex for the intense moisturizing. During the day, wear something without smell or taste if possible, unless it's very light and sweet. I swore by my strawberry Eos during my first kiss and my boyfriend, to this day, still loves the stuff.
But honestly, a first kiss is usually a light peck, so don't worry too much if your lips aren't smooth as an angels cheeks. Just make sure you don't go overboard with the product. Odds are, your lips are just fine and your crush will be pleased with them.
2. Let's talk about the whole breath situation. This is important, so read carefully. It's easy as ABC.
A. Chew mint gum about an hour before, if you know it's going to happen.
B. Make sure you spit out this gum and if needed, swallow it. (I know, that's gross. But desperate times call for desperate measures.)
C. Pop in some sort of small mint within five to ten minutes before. This mint must be completely dissolved by the time of the kiss, so chew it, spit it out or swallow it if necessary. I'd opt for chewing it up and making sure nothing grainy from it stuck behind.
Again, first kisses are usually pecks so your crush may not even notice your breath and it probably wouldn't even be that bad anyway. if it's spontaneous and you can predict it and therefore prepare for it, sometimes that's actually better! So no worries no matter what.
3. RELAX! Relax those lips, honey. I know how stressful it can be the moment before and how you're trying to remember everything you read on the internet and heard from your friends and this and that and blah blah blah. But, take a deep breath and let your pretty little lips hang loose. There should be a tiny little gap between your top and bottom lip when you do this. It'll make your kiss softer and sweeter, I promise.
THINGS NOT TO DO DURING YOUR FIRST KISS
1. Do not pucker. Just, don't. We've all seen the movies and how it looks like couples pucker, but babe, they do not. Just relax your lips (as I've previously mentioned)and let your instincts handle the rest.
2. Do not wear lip gloss. I was literally the girl at my school known for her love and impeccable taste in lip glosses, but when it came time for the kiss, I abandoned all of that. Though lip gloss can make your lips the perfect color and make them look irresistibly juicy, it turns into a sticky mess. Instead, go for a lip stain under chapstick!
3. DO NOT GET CAUGHT UP IN THE STEPS! This is the most important 'do not'.
1. Look into their eyes
2. Tilt your head
3. Lean in
4. Close your eyes
5. Connect your lips.
That's just not how the very first kiss goes, Honey. It's too quick for all the steps usually, so I think if you just stop thinking, take a deep breath and relax, you'll do just fine.
Answering questions about first kisses
I've been asked these questions by friends and readers, so here they are.
How much do I lean in?
If you have ever seen the movie Hitch, you'll know what I'm about to say.
If you're the girl, the guy will go about 90% of the way by leaning in. You just barely tilt and lean up, which you will do probably without even thinking about it. So, don't overthink it. By the way, most people tilt to the right.
What if I'm really bad?
Okay, here's the deal, Cuties. I've never heard of a first kiss being anything but normal and okay. It's hard for a peck to be magical or even bad. And, odds are, if you and your crush are good for each other, he'll over look it.
What if they're really bad?
It'll get better, I promise. Around the fourth kiss, you'll figure it out.
What's the deal with the whole instincts thing? Will I really know what to do without like, knowing what to do?
Yes! You will! I was very worried about this when the time came for my first kiss, so I'll let you in on how it feels. They're leaning in, you'll find yourself leaning in and the leading up moment is the best part. The actual lip on lip action is only around a second long.
Will there be sparks?
Ummm, that's a toughie. It'll be fun and there will be butterflies! but, I feel like the actual sparks come when you're making out or having a longer, more heated kiss. But don't worry, it'll happen eventually!
If you have any more questions, please comment! I love answering.
And lastly, here's my first kiss story... you can skip this if you want and go straight to asking me questions!
I was 15 and a sophomore in high school (I'm talking about a real kiss, no elementary or middle school peck) and I had been with my first real boyfriend for nearly a month. And my boyfriend is the kind of guy to plan
everything so I already knew this kiss was coming and prepared with mint gum and strawberry eos chapstick. He was leaning against my locker like in one of those cheesy high school movies, and he said something along the lines of "I think I promised you something" and ran his tongue over his bottom lip. He can do sexy things like that... Ugh, I wish I could.
Anyways, he leans in and I'm nervous, so I start to blabber to myself. And he sort of shushes me before tucking his finger under my chin and kissing me. My boyfriend is (was, I guess) a bold guy, so he tried to french kiss me on the first kiss. I relaxed my lips and tried to remember everything I knew from my friends and the web and reading blogs such as this one and ended up just not kissing him back really.
And that was it! It wasn't sparking, but it was good and the perfect awkwardly sweet memory of a first kiss.
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