Losing My Virginity; The Real Story from an Ordinary Girl

Hey there!
I know that this story is all over the internet, but I found it is mostly the edited version from adults, either telling you to be terrified or have no worries. So, I'm here to tell you the raw story! No lies, I'm not trying to scare you into eternal abstinence, I'm just telling you what it was like for a normal sixteen year old girl.
This may not be the same for everyone, but hey,  I said this was my version, so here it is.

What Was True..

I've heard/read hundreds of stories regarding losing virginity. Though most of these stories contained myths that weren't entirely true, there were some things you should know I found accurate.

l. I felt closer to my partner afterwards

I know a lot of girls, including myself, come off like sex isn't a big deal. It's very complicated to define. The physical part of it is small, natural, and not really that significant. However, the emotional
part is, especially in the act of losing your virginity. You're vulnerable, and not just in the way that you're probably completely naked. But, you're also in pain, you've never experienced something like this before, this man is going where no man has ever gone, literally. It's a big deal. For the rest of your life, people will ask you how you lost your virginity, even if it's in cheesy truth or dare games. And, you're going to repeat the story. Make it a good one! I don't mean to scare you, no one's losing virginity story is perfect, there's usually no romantic, pre planned playlist in the back ground, the lights dimmed, and rose petals covering the floor. My advice is simply this: lose your virginity to someone you love.

2. If it's with the right person, you won't regret it.

Again, the right person is key. I'd say about half of people I talk to say they regret how they lost their virginity, and most of those claim it's because it wasn't with the right person. When I got into high school, I was very shy and thought that no one would ever date me, and therefore, I'd hang onto my V card probably into college. And that's totally fine! If I didn't find my first love in highschool, I would have patiently waited until college or a later time to sleep with someone for the first time. Many girls do it with any guy they're "talking" (talking: definition: have a fling with someone; unofficial) to or who happens to hit them up one lonely night, just to get it over with.
If you love that person, and you are sure this is what you want, I say do it. If you ever regret it in the future, you'll know that sleeping with that man is what you wanted at the time, and that's enough.
Please, lovelies, just wait for someone you love. It makes losing your virginity go from a task to a sweet memory.

3. It's beautiful.

Not to be crude, but I always thought "how could a penis breaking a hymen be beautiful? It seems bloody, painful and unimportant"... I was wrong. It's not the physical penis enters vagina that's beautiful, it's how young you are, how raw the feelings are. I was lucky enough to also take the virginity of the man who took mine, so we were both a little nervous, but in the good way. It's not that we didn't know what we were doing, it's textbook. But, we just couldn't believe that we, just a goofy high school couple, were about to make love. It was amazing.

What Surprised Me

1. The Popping of My "Cherry"

If you're completely new to the thought of losing your virginity, I'll let you know right now that the phrase "to pop a cherry" means to break the hymen, which is a lining that is just inside your vagina. Many women tear their hymen before sex, or wear it down, or don't even have it at all! But when you hear that sex hurts, that pain is a result from breaking the hymen. 

I originally thought that I didn't have a hymen anymore, since I was a mature woman who has been using tampons all her life and went through a "training" in order to make sex hurt less. I was wrong.

When my hymen broke, it wasn't a big rip. It was more than one push, and there was a lot of blood! In the movies, it seemed like you had two or three cute droplets of blood on the sheets after losing your virginity. But, I had several teaspoons, and there was blood for the next day or so visable in my panties and whenever I went to the bathroom. 

Advice: Make sure you put down a towel or you're okay with your sheets getting a little blood on them. Most of the blood went on my panties after we had sex and didn't drip out during the process of it all.

2. The Pain

Most of my friends told me that there would be little to no pain involved and if there was, it was because I was tense and he wasn't the right person or because I wasn't emotionally ready. Nope! He and I had been (have been, but you know what I mean) together for a long time, discussed it, and were ready. I was mature enough and it's not that his..package was abnormally large. It hurt because it will just hurt for some women. This might do with how wide your hips are, or some other factors with your body. But be ready for a little pain, just in case!

Here's what it felt like: 

It felt as if you were poking a large area of skin, like your thigh, with something not that sharp, but pointy. So, maybe like poking the top of your thigh with a kabob stick. It's difficult to describe. Truth is, it's not that bad at all, but it just caught me off guard.

Advice: If you find yourself tensing from the pain, take a deep breath and relax all muscles, that will help A LOT. Lay back on the bed (or whatever surface) and breathe in, letting your stomach, back and the muscles in your vagina relax. You'll be able to enjoy it more.

3. How Fast It Was Over

I know, I know. They tell you all the time that virgin boys will finish fast, but I didn't believe this because my boy wasn't just any little virgin. We had engaged in previous sexual activities where he showed that he had control, a lot of it! But, when it came down to actual sex, against all his promises and confidence, he finished within minutes. Keep in mind ladies that it isn't his fault for being a virgin, but also yours because your vagina is the tightest it will ever be, which makes it extremely hard to even full matured and experienced men to hold back after a couple minutes. The point is, it's very normal and it's not that bad! If you feel a little cheated, you can just try again when he's "recharged".

Advice: Don't be disappointed, especially if you're a girl.It will probably end soon, but don't blame your partner. It's hard enough to pleasure a woman, think of how difficult it would be to do on your very first try.

4. I Didn't Very Different Afterwards

I don't know why I thought that him sticking a piece of himself inside of me would make me feel any more mature, or like any more of a woman. We were already very close emotionally, so we simply made that bond physical. I still see myself as a virgin, since it hasn't set in yet.. That one moment of time was it for me, it was supposed to change my life and make me turn from just a kid to a woman. Maybe it will, but I feel like I was already a woman, and I didn't need a man and his penis to make me that.

Myths about sex!

I heard some crazy things about sex before I experienced it, some of which caused me to be scared, and wait longer. Here's just a few...

1. "Having sex makes you a bad person"

Not to get involved with religious views and so on, but I don't think if you have sex, whether it was planned or a mistake or spontaneous, should make you feel bad about yourself.

2. "He's gonna tell EVERYONE"

Hopefully, you guys are mature enough not to spread the news. I always had this terrible nightmare that whoever I slept with would walk into the locker room and tell every guy in sight "Hey! I finally got ____ to put out!" and he would receive high fives. This doesn't happen to most girls, but still be careful when choosing a mature guy.

Final Note: 

If requested, I can put my entire story up. but, I didn't want to share that information if no one wanted it!

My final advice is: choose someone you love. Don't expect it to be like the movies, let it be beautiful in its own way. Lastly, have fun! You can only do this once.

How To Get A Player To Like You (The Guide to Players of All Kinds!)

Yes, we all know that boy. He's charming, maybe plays a sport or two, is impeccably handsome.. But, he's a player. And you want him. Well, Girls, I'm going to help you get that boy.

(By the way, this is Austin Butler as Sebastian in The Carrie Diaries, which is currently my favorite show. So frickin cute, right?!)

Since this is a girl to girl tutorial on how to score that hot player, I'm going to let you know how I did it personally and how other girls that I did my research on have.

Let's get to it.

 We first need to establish the kind of player we're talking about here. For me, the definition of a player is a charming, cute guy who either dates everyone shallowly or dates no one at all.

There's different kinds of players but mostly I've found that there are two.

A. The Sporty Player

B. The more "Outcast" (is nearly too good for anyone) Player

I know that there is more than this and message me if you think of a different kind or need some help, I'll happily offer my services.

HOW TO GET A PLAYER TO LIKE YOU

1.Play hard to get. Before you dismiss this step, here me out. The essence of players is that they are adored by many girls, most of which are probably flirting or talking to him all the time. I want you to make your presence known (more on this later) but don't try to get flirty with him at first. Just be cool and act slightly uninterested. I know this sounds totally crazy, but it works, I swear! Playing hard to get can grab his attention because you're the only girl in the room who's not trying to get his number.

2. Create a situation in which you can talk to him at school. The more constant it is, the better. Grab that seat next to him in Chem, Notice that one of your friends has a locker near him, anything! I am aware of how silly this sounds, but if you want the player, you have to do this. I would suggest that this time isn't really alone time, but in more of a casual or group setting.

2.5. Once you have the seeing him often thing down, start with little things. Drop a pen, casually (and carefully) include him in you and your friends' convo, talk to him in the hallway. If you're a shy girl like me, this can sound nearly impossible. But, don't worry! You can do it! 

You're a hot young woman and if you want to talk to that cutie in the hallway about if he just passed that impossible math test, girl, you do it!

3. Create a situation where you can seem him outside of school. Yes, I did just say outside of school. But, that can include any school event, a party, a hang out, anything! I personally recommend things like bonfires, football games and rallies, you can talk to him at a school dance or show up to a party you both got invited to. 

(The very optional step) 3.5. Invite him to a hang out of your own, if everything is going well. I'm not saying invite him over to your house, but correlate some sort of party (I don't mean the drinking kind) with your friends and tack him and a couple other normal, cool guys to the list. Not everyone can do this, I understand. But, I've seen a lot of girls do it and it works, so I thought that I might as well include it.

4. Alone time at school. If you have been following the last couple steps, this one will be a breeze. Wait for him to suggest it and if he doesn't, you go ahead. Tutor him, help him with a project, eat lunch together for some reason, just make up something that'll give you two an excuse to hang out together (mostly) alone at school. If you have off campus lunch, complain that your friend totally bailed on this place you were going and say something like "hey, you wanna come? Milkshakes, my treat!"

He'll either say no and say another time (he may be interested! uh, hell yes!)

or say no and walk away (doubt it at this point)

or you'll get to go have milkshakes.

I would continue with this step until you're sure he likes you and even until he makes a move.

5. Hang out.. Outside of school. This is a major step and if you've gotten this far, you either have a new guy friend (score!) or a new nearly boyfriend (double freaking score!). If he likes you, he'll probably start making up excuses to see you. Otherwise, you can just bring up some events going on in your town and see if he takes the bait. For example,

You: Oh, I can't wait to see (Insert movie title). But none of my friends are going to see it. 

Cutie: Oh.

You: Hey, do you want to see it together? I'll sneak candy in my purse, free of charge.

OR

 You: Oh, I can't wait to see (Insert movie title). But none of my friends are going to see it. 

Cutie: Do you maybe want to go together?

You: Yeah sounds fun. *Mentally: Hell freaking yes!*

6. Start going on real dates. Let's get real, Ladies. By this point in time, you'll know whether or not he likes you. And I honestly think that if you've made it to hanging out on your own, he probably does like you. But (but but but but but) he could just want to be friends with you, which is perfectly fine. If he doesn't start asking you out on real dates or telling you how he feels, this is the only step where I'll tell you not to take it into your own hands. Continue being his friend for a while until you feel that you must tell him, and if you do, keep it cool, short and honest. There's nothing I can do to help you beyond this point.

Well, those are the basic steps.

I'll now include some great tips to pair with the steps, or just on their own if you don't need the silly steps.

Keep it cool! No guy likes an eager or prissy girl. Just keep calm! I know that he's super cute and you want to bat your eyelashes and apply a bucket of lip gloss when he walks in the room, but keep it cool, girl! Don't pay much attention to him until you're friends and even then, try to be normal and nice. I'm not sure how to explain how to be cool, but um, I hope you catch my drift.

Look good... Most of the time. I'm aware that the internet tells you that you can wear your hair and clothes however you want and there's no need for dressing up and blah blah blah, BUT I feel like that's a little silly. There is a line to be drawn, of course, but I see no harm in brushing your hair nicely and looking good when you get to school. A little mascara and strawberry chapstick wouldn't kill you, Honey. The added confidence to looking good will make you feel great too!.. And attract your hottie.

Keep it real. Sometimes it's wired in girls brains to act a little dumb, or extra girly, or to just act differently when around a guy. I make the mistake of doing it all the time, I'll admit. But, own it! Own yourself, Girlfriend. If you're smarter than he is, be smarter. No need to be like Cady from Mean Girls and pretend to be dumb or anything but how beautifully intelligent you are. And this goes for everything from being athletic, tomboy-ish, a little girly and even silly. Own yo-self, Girl!

Try not to be eager. Again, if he's a player, that means that he's probably surrounded by needy, eager girls all the time and if you aren't that way, you'll stick out.

Lastly, I'll tell you the story of how I scored my very own player... if you don't want to read this, thanks for reading my blog! Check out my other posts and the poll, comment and share:)

I met my player officially in August. He played football and soccer and was really cute and all the girls adored him. 

We were sat next to each other in both math and chem and one day in math, he made a joke and out of pity, I gave him a small fake laugh. I thought that he was so popular he wouldn't actually want anything to do with me. 

When I noticed he showed interest, I played hard to get. He still mocks me for this game, to this day. 

We went to homecoming in October and began dating in December of 2014. We've now been dating for 7 months as of July 9th.

So, here's the steps. 

1. I played hard to get when I showed no interest in him for weeks. 

2. I sat by him in chem so we could talk everyday. 

2.5. I dropped pens and made small talk.

3. We went to bonfires and homecoming 

I didn't do step 3.5

4. We went out to lunches and such at school, alone. 

5. We hung out alone outside of school via simple movies and again, for food. 

6. I sort of hate dates, but we have gone out to the movies and such. 

So there you have it! 

Thanks for reading and please comment and share and look at the poll and read more of my stuff!:)

Thanks!

xx 

Madi

The Ultimate Guide to the Perfect First Kiss

First kisses. Before I had my first kiss, everyone told me that it was no big deal. But, I was thinking Uh, yes it is! I want to know what it feels like. I don't want to be the only one not to know what it feels like! How do I even kiss well? What if it goes wrong? But, oooh, what if it goes right?!

Well, girls and guys, I'm here to answer all those questions for you and give you a casual but helpful guide on how to have a great first kiss. 

I'll first give you some tips on how to have a nice first kiss, followed by some answering of common questions and at the end I'll tell you the story of my first kiss (which wasn't like the movies, so it'll calm your nerves!). Some issues I'll end up addressing multiple times.. And, Guys, I wrote this mainly for girls, but I'll include notes for you also:)

BASIC TIPS FOR YOUR FIRST KISS

1. The most obvious tip is to make sure your lips are nice and soft. If you have super chapped lips, opt for one of the lip balm pots by brands like Carmex or Blistex for the intense moisturizing. During the day, wear something without smell or taste if possible, unless it's very light and sweet. I swore by my strawberry Eos during my first kiss and my boyfriend, to this day, still loves the stuff.

But honestly, a first kiss is usually a light peck, so don't worry too much if your lips aren't smooth as an angels cheeks. Just make sure you don't go overboard with the product. Odds are, your lips are just fine and your crush will be pleased with them.

2. Let's talk about the whole breath situation. This is important, so read carefully. It's easy as ABC.

A. Chew mint gum about an hour before, if you know it's going to happen.

B. Make sure you spit out this gum and if needed, swallow it. (I know, that's gross. But desperate times call for desperate measures.)

C. Pop in some sort of small mint within five to ten minutes before. This mint must be completely dissolved by the time of the kiss, so chew it, spit it out or swallow it if necessary. I'd opt for chewing it up and making sure nothing grainy from it stuck behind.

Again, first kisses are usually pecks so your crush may not even notice your breath and it probably wouldn't even be that bad anyway. if it's spontaneous and you can predict it and therefore prepare for it, sometimes that's actually better! So no worries no matter what.

3. RELAX! Relax those lips, honey. I know how stressful it can be the moment before and how you're trying to remember everything you read on the internet and heard from your friends and this and that and blah blah blah. But, take a deep breath and let your pretty little lips hang loose. There should be a tiny little gap between your top and bottom lip when you do this. It'll make your kiss softer and sweeter, I promise.

THINGS NOT TO DO DURING YOUR FIRST KISS

1. Do not pucker. Just, don't. We've all seen the movies and how it looks like couples pucker, but babe, they do not. Just relax your lips (as I've previously mentioned)and let your instincts handle the rest.

2. Do not wear lip gloss. I was literally the girl at my school known for her love and impeccable taste in lip glosses, but when it came time for the kiss, I abandoned all of that. Though lip gloss can make your lips the perfect color and make them look irresistibly juicy, it turns into a sticky mess. Instead, go for a lip stain under chapstick!

3. DO NOT GET CAUGHT UP IN THE STEPS! This is the most important 'do not'. 

1. Look into their eyes

2. Tilt your head

3. Lean in

4. Close your eyes

5. Connect your lips.

That's just not how the very first kiss goes, Honey. It's too quick for all the steps usually, so I think if you just stop thinking, take a deep breath and relax, you'll do just fine.

Answering questions about first kisses

I've been asked these questions by friends and readers, so here they are.

How much do I lean in?

If you have ever seen the movie Hitch, you'll know what I'm about to say.

If you're the girl, the guy will go about 90% of the way by leaning in. You just barely tilt and lean up, which you will do probably without even thinking about it. So, don't overthink it. By the way, most people tilt to the right.

What if I'm really bad?

Okay, here's the deal, Cuties. I've never heard of a first kiss being anything but normal and okay. It's hard for a peck to be magical or even bad. And, odds are, if you and your crush are good for each other, he'll over look it.

What if they're really bad?

It'll get better, I promise. Around the fourth kiss, you'll figure it out.

What's the deal with the whole instincts thing? Will I really know what to do without like, knowing what to do?

Yes! You will! I was very worried about this when the time came for my first kiss, so I'll let you in on how it feels. They're leaning in, you'll find yourself leaning in and the leading up moment is the best part. The actual lip on lip action is only around a second long.

Will there be sparks?

Ummm, that's a toughie. It'll be fun and there will be butterflies! but, I feel like the actual sparks come when you're making out or having a longer, more heated kiss. But don't worry, it'll happen eventually! 

If you have any more questions, please comment! I love answering.

And lastly, here's my first kiss story... you can skip this if you want and go straight to asking me questions!

I was 15 and a sophomore in high school (I'm talking about a real kiss, no elementary or middle school peck) and I had been with my first real boyfriend for nearly a month. And my boyfriend is the kind of guy to plan

everything so I already knew this kiss was coming and prepared with mint gum and strawberry eos chapstick. He was leaning against my locker like in one of those cheesy high school movies, and he said something along the lines of "I think I promised you something" and ran his tongue over his bottom lip. He can do sexy things like that... Ugh, I wish I could.

Anyways, he leans in and I'm nervous, so I start to blabber to myself. And he sort of shushes me before tucking his finger under my chin and kissing me. My boyfriend is (was, I guess) a bold guy, so he tried to french kiss me on the first kiss. I relaxed my lips and tried to remember everything I knew from my friends and the web and reading blogs such as this one and ended up just not kissing him back really.

And that was it! It wasn't sparking, but it was good and the perfect awkwardly sweet memory of a first kiss.

Relationship Rules: Which to Break & Some to Follow

First, here's some rules I've heard that you should probably consider breaking. Next, there's a couple suggestions I think you should follow and just a little bit of my very own love advice, just for you. Take a look, Love!

1. "Don't be needy". There is a blurred line between loving and needy and that line can be easily crossed. but, I was so scared of crossing this line that I let him be so free, that I tried to show so little care, that I tried to control his life barely, that he felt unwanted by me. Honestly, I think it's better to be a little needy because then they always know that though you can be slightly annoying at times, you love them. It's all out of love. Being really independent and unneedy like I am can make them feel unloved and unwanted.

2. "Only showcase the best parts of yourself". Like in "Hitch", it is often said to only let the person see the best of you. I'll agree to this for first dates but after that, why bother? That person is either going to like who you truly are, or they're not. So by hiding yourself, you're wasting time. If you love them and they love you, great. But if they finally know who you are after five years and then decide they don't like it, you've just wasted a good four and a half years that you could have potentially found someone that loved you.

3. "Never take someone back". Taylor Swift's song just seemed so legit,I used to always believe that I'd follow this rule. Well, I disagree now. I was all about no second chances, no resuscitation of a dead heart, no rekindled flame. But, one day, you might get back together with because it's not a second chance. It's their first chance, their first chance was never quite over. I don't mean this really for those who cheat (and I don't consider a kiss a big cheating offense, by the way) or do something crazy like hit you. I more mean this for the guy who broke up with you one day after you began drifting apart.

4. "If something, anything, is bothering you, talk about it". This is very difficult. I think that if something big is bothering you like that he doesn't make enough time for you, then go ahead and talk to him about it. But, if its something little like how he taps his feet or bites his lip or wears really cheesy Star War tee-shirts from the 90's, by all means honey, LET IT GO. Choose your battles, and choose them wisely. Nit picking won't help at all but will probably just offend him. If you really hate something small, you can suggest something new instead and he may just love it. That's why I chose this risque picture, because he is the star-wars-tee-shirt-guy and shes helping him with a new button up which be probably loves almost as much as her sex lingerie.

5. Always use "I" statements, not "You" statements. Though saying "I'm just very disappointed that we can't spend more time together" is better than "you need to make time for me", I think there's an even better solution. Try "WE"! "We should try to spend more time together" "we can get through this" "We should do that"... It's great. Whenever my partner uses "we" I feel as if he is taking himself into the equation while also reminding me that after all of this, we are still a team. We are still together and by using "we" he shows that "we" can make it through and "I" can't do it alone.

Next, here's some rules I do think you should obey. I know that relationships can't and really shouldn't have rules, so here's some "suggestions". Cool? Cool.

1. "The dumpees shouldn't call". The dumpee is the one getting dumped obviously and in my mind, usually shouldn't call the dumper. Usually this call or text results in embarrassing begging and suggestions to get back together. No. If someone just broke up with you, they meant it to your knowledge. If they didn't, they'll find their way back to you, no worries. I suggest never calling them first and letting yourself get over them. Holding on won't do you any good.

2. "You can never love someone as much as you can miss them; keep that in mind". This one is rather sad. When you're the dumper especially, it's easy to miss that person a whole lot and being the dumper, you have the power to go back to them. But, I don't always believe this is a good thing. You broke up with them for a reason, remember those reasons. I have always been a person who misses people and always wants them back but I must remind myself that things were over and my feelings for them were weaker then than they are now, when I miss this person. That's kind of difficult to explain, sorry.

3. "Do not change; Adjust". We all have things we don't Love with a capital L about our partners and that's okay. And being a partner to someone else, you've got to adjust to this. I don't think people should change, because why would you fall in love with someone just to change them? Nuh uh. Just don't. But, if they don't like how much money you spend on make up, cut it down. Don't just stop wearing make up, do your thang, girl! And if they don't think that you pay enough attention to them, adjust. Make time. You don't have to make them the center of your universe.

Myths About High School: I was so wrong.

Before entering high school, I had read and heard so many things about it that I realize today aren't remotely true.

After two years of this, I decided to finally write about all I was wrong about when entering high school... Which is both hilarious and helpful to those incoming freshman.

1. You'll have at least  3 or 4 boyfriends/girlfriends. Hahaha, no! Many people have one or two longer term relationships or couple quicker ones or none at all. When I was in middle school, it was a trend to "date" or "like" the same person for a school year, which was probably around six months at the time. So, I thought in high school I would average about one boy per year, two if the first didn't work out... It didn't work out like that obviously.

2. There is popularity in high school. There's a bit and I won't deny that, but it's not half as bad as I thought it would be. Look at Clueless, Mean Girls and so on to see what I thought it would be like; Popular upperclassmen with the desire to pick on all the normal people like me. Basically, I think there's popular by people (the nice ones!), popular by habit (sluts, sorry.) and popular by their own choosing and attitude (they did nothing to become popular, they just were and that was it). High school is more just a bunch of normal people.

3. Upperclassmen are going to beat you up. No one is going to throw you in a dumpster or make you scrub the school logo painting with a toothbrush. They do use you to do little chores and such on sports teams, especially as a freshman. When I used to be a cheerleader, they would yell "Hey, Fresh Monkeys! Go clean up the equipment." but honestly it was kind of an honor.

4. There are lots of parties. Maybe it's just my high school, but no one really goes to parties besides a very select group. The rest of us just stick to the dances and things.

5. Prom is practically a ball. Run by ASB (students) honestly prom usually sucks due to low budget. Not everyone looks like a queen and the boy of your dreams probably won't walk across the room dramatically to say "Hey, you look amazing. Let's dance." (Taylor Swift, You Belong With Me) but he may look over at you and smile if you're lucky. Prom can still be fun though, but you have to make it fun and not depend on everyone else.

6. Every girl gets a guy friend. Unlike middle school, girls and guys can be friends again, turns out cooties weren't actually a thing (WAIT, WHAT?!). But some girls, like me, just can't have close guy friends. You see, one of the two of us falls for each other every single time. My first guy friend: Fell for him. The second and third fell for me. The fourth was dating my best friend, so we actually were decent friends. The fifth fell for me. And the sixth, the one I thought I finally got right.. We broke up from a four month relationship just a couple weeks ago. So, you can have guy friends if you're the right kind of girl.

 

7. The same girls will get asked out. This one is HUGE! In my school, there were always the same girls that had boyfriends and got asked on dates but all of that changed like crazy as soon as I got to high school. Suddenly, I was the one being asked out! WHAT! I got asked to Homecoming by a cute football player, asked on a date by a couple other guys and prom by another football player just in my freshman year. It was so insane. What. All the pretty girls get asked out still, but not as much as they did and all of a sudden it could be you dating the best guy in school.

8. Footballers are the sh*t. According to movies and books, football players are the best. And some of them are, no doubt. But they aren't rulers of the school (Glee) or anything crazy like that. In my school, there's a tradition that the player's lucky lady wears his second jersey on game days and I admit I gave into that one. Nothing is better than watching football in  the chilly October afternoon, wearing a cutie's jersey with his cologne all over you. It's great! But, when football season ends in early November, no one really gives a crap if you play football.

9.You're going to go on a lot of dates. When I finally came of age to date, I really didn't like the formality of going on dates. Let's not go sit at a restaurant as I try to look pretty and eat and make conversation all at the same time. I always thought I would get better at that, but I never did.

10.Appearance is key. With shows like The Vampire Diaries, I always thought that students could dress up for school. Not at my  high school. Every girl wears jeans and a tee shirt with her choice of shoes, not including heels. You can occasionally wear a skirt or dress or heeled boots, but have to dull it down. That part kinda sucks.

11. Cheerleaders are the sh*t. I was a cheerleader my freshman year and in my school, everyone hated us! And if they don't hate you, they'll probably be indifferent towards you. It's bad. The most popular girls can be in other sports or no sports and all and cheerleaders, though slightly admired by the football players, "ain't anything special".

11. You're going to have a high school sweetheart. By high school sweetheart, I mean that you're going to fall in love in high school at some point. I always thought that was a guarantee, but after being here for a few years, I just don't see it happening for sure. Good guys are hard to find! And to make them like you, date you, stay with you and eventually love you? Nearly impossible. However, I don't suggest being a pessimist and completely dismissing this idea of love, who knows.

12. Everyone is having sex. Sorry, this one is a little rude and harsh, but it has to be said. There are a lot of girls and guys out there experimenting and doing that, but not as many as I thought there would be. And, it's a lot more private. There's not really as many rumors as I thought there would be about who is sleeping with who and why and when and oh my god; no. The only people I know about are those who told me directly.

13. You'll know what's going on. You probably won't know your future or even where you're going for lunch in five minutes. You're Clueless (whoops, a pun). But it's great nonetheless.

Well, that's it for now! I thought if you're going into high school, you may find these helpful. And, if you're already in high school, you may find these  fairly funny.